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昨个是开学日，尽管我仇恨学校厌恶幼生体，不过还是应景的聊聊学习话题吧。 毫无疑问，每个家长就希望自己的孩子聪明，然，你要怎么抚养一个聪明的孩子呢？ Carol S. Dweck 写了一份很有趣的相关论文：别告诉孩子他们很聪明！智力和才能不是决定性因素，努力真正帮你在学校和人生中攻城略地的关键。 他们调查了数百名1998年的五年级毕业生。心理学家给出一些IQ测试题，孩子们都回答得很好。然后，邪恶的科学家开始区别对待了——对一拨孩子说，"你的得分不错，你肯定是个聪明的孩子。"另一半得到的答复是，"哦，干得不错，你一定学习很努力。" 结果是，被称赞聪明的孩子更容易故步自封。那些受到“聪明的”鼓励的孩子往往不愿意接受挑战——他们喜欢轻松的任务，不同于，“努力的”孩子们那么积极——他们更乐于接受困难的工作以证明所学的知识。事实上，当我们解决了一个难题时，受到“聪明”的鼓励其实是对所作努力的一种否定。在接下来的测试中，“聪明的”孩子们即使得道了更容易的题目，分数还是下降了。相比之下，努力的孩子们即使在困难面前也不那么容易失去信心，其后的表现也有显著提高。

A radio station in Australia ran a phone-in competition to find the Most embarrassing moment in listener's lives. The final four were: 4th Place While in line at the bank one afternoon, my toddler decided to release some pent-up energy and started to run amuck. I was finally able to grab hold of her after receiving looks of disgust and annoyance from other patrons. I told her that if she didn't start behaving herself, right now, she would be punished. To my horror, she looked me in the eye and said in a voice just as threatening, 'If you don't let me go right now, I will tell Grandma I saw you kissing Daddy's Willie last night.' After this enlightening exchange, the silence was deafening. Even the tellers stopped what they were doing. I mustered the last of my dignity and walked out of the bank, with my daughter in tow. The last thing I heard as the door closed behind me were screams of laughter. 3rd Place It was the day before my 18th birthday. I was livin...